Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Far and Away

My parents have decided to seize an opportunity they cannot pass up and move away. It is a really good thing.

However, if you are me then you can both see the greatness of it and feel the anxiety and loss of having them pack up and go.

They will only be 4 hours away. That is a huge jump from being 40 minutes away but still closer than when we lived 2 1/2 days away.

When we lived 2 1/2 days away and one month after we were married my mother was diagnosed, for the second time, with breast cancer. I was 2 1/2 days away and far away from any other friends or family that could offer me comfort and support. It was awful. Being far away was awful. I was gifted with a plane ticket and was able to be there for the surgery and help with the recovery. Emotionally it was important to be there.

It was because of that feeling of helplessness that we began seeking a way to the west coast to be closer to my folks. It wasn't until P was born that we realized just how important the parent/adult child relationship is combined with the importance of the grandparent/grandchild relationship.

We did not have that where we lived. A wonderful circle of friends yes, but no family support of any kind.

We moved when P was 2. The deciding factor was that my parents lived here. Given what I have just disclosed, I would find it safe to assume that we will be seeking opportunities that would bring us closer to them. It makes a huge difference to have that support close by.

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